Are we staying? Are we going?

Wednesday, April 5, 2017



Behind the scenes here at In Search Of, we've been toiling away with the really difficult decision of choosing to stay in Lithuania for another year, or moving elsewhere. Since about October, J and I have been going back and forth about where we most want to live and what our personal and professional goals are for the upcoming years. We've been trying (and failing) to make future plans, decide whether to stay expats or re-pat, all while attempting to consider what's best for Baby ISO and for our parents. And let me tell you, with that many factors in play, it has been a very stressful several months.

Our big decision was made in November/December when J chose not to re-sign his contract to stay in Vilnius. Really, saying it like that sounds like I had no vote in the matter, but it was a unanimous decision. Though we love living in Vilnius, there are some things that we need right now that it doesn't readily offer. I'm rather torn about leaving because I do love it here and have made such wonderful friends, but it is time; I don't want to overstay.

So that means we are moving at the end of the school year! For months after choosing to leave our expat home in Vilnius, we both have been filling out job applications like mad people and worrying that neither of us will get a job and we'll have to move back in with our parents (with a kid and a cat at the age of ~30). Talk about stress and worry. Talk about a lot of late nights and working weekends. That limbo period is really not a fun time.

But about a month ago, we got good news. J was offered a fabulous job in a location where I'll be able to pursue ample freelance opportunities. But I'm totally going to be that blogger and share the good news with you next time (please don't hate me!).

In the meantime, do you have any guesses where we are moving to? Are we staying abroad or moving back to the US? I'd love to know what you think.

8 comments:

  1. I am in the same boat! I'll do a blog post around the end of the month with my final decision, but it has been super stressful! I can't wait to follow your move!

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    1. You are thinking about moving as well?! I can't wait to read your post and see what your plans are. It is so stressful to figure out the details of moving and whether or not to move. Good luck!!!

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  2. Interesting... it is SUCH a hard decision to decide to leave a place that you've grown to love.... which is why we haven't made that decision yet, but one day it will come. I am a little curious what things that Vilnius didn't offer that you want in your next home? :) I am going to guess that you are not going back to the U.S. quite yet.... (but could be wrong, of course!)

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    1. I was wondering by your Instagram post if you too were starting to think about making a move. It is a really hard decision, and the factors here really came down to our jobs, health insurance, and child care options. Totally all very boring adult things, but also really important at this time. It also wouldn't kill us to move somewhere a bit sunnier...but I think all of us in Eastern/Central Europe would say that in the winter/early spring!

      You are correct in that we aren't moving back to the U.S. yet, it is too much fun living abroad (and WAY more affordable)!

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    2. Ohh no, no big moves yet! I think we'll be here for at least a couple more years (that's the plan, anyhow) but I was having a tough week, thinking a lot about financials and what is the best path. Although I think about this kind of stuff very often, it was really "coming to the fore" recently. Our upcoming trip to the U.S. really makes me realize the salary disparity between CZ and US!

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    3. I know! The cost of living is so much higher in the US that every time we visit we have to live off potatoes when we return to Lithuania. The salary differences are huge, too.

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  3. I'm guessing that you're moving to London! But only because that's the only big city I could imagine living. :) Cant wait for you to share where the new digs will be!

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    1. Thanks, Katrina! London would be a dreamy place to move, but I think would also be way too expensive for us.

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