Where my Visitors at?

Friday, March 20, 2015



It has been quite some time since I wrote a truly expat focused post, but this one has been long in the making. I've been living outside of the US for (what I feel like) has been a while now. First in Kunming, China on and off from 2010-2012 and now from August 2013 - until current in Vilnius, Lithuania. I love living abroad. Its given me the freedom to pursue my interests in a not so ordinary way and has provided the wonderful bonus of travel and amazing friendships across the globe. What would make the whole experience even better would be for family to come visit me.


Where my visitors at?!


I would love it for someone to come visit. I would love to play tour guide, show my family or friends where we live, introduce our fat cat, and take people out for amazing Lithuanian food. I feel like as an expat, each time we live somewhere new we fall in love with our new home, and change because of it. I want to show it off! I want my family and friends to understand what I'm talking about when I complain about the grumpy lady at the grocery store that throws the food at me. I want my people to know the me I am now, not the small town me that I was over 8 years ago.

I'm tired of people saying they will come visit and continuously putting it off. I don't want to hear that you are planning to come visit, unless you are actually coming. Hearing this over and over again has turned me cynical. When someone tells me they are going to come visit I just tune out the conversation. Dear family/friends: please don't tell me you will visit until you are sitting in front of the computer ready to purchase tickets and want to confirm the dates.


So, where my visitors at? Expats out there - do you feel the same way? 

10 comments:

  1. I totally get this! I feel like people WANT to visit, but the time and financial commitment is hard to make-especially since all my friends are in their mid-20s and don't have a lot of money lying around. That being said, I don't want to hear "I'm definitely coming to visit!" until they're ready to book the tickets, too!

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    1. Exactly! In the reverse- it is also hard to hear when they want us to come home to visit, which is also expensive, yet is much more expected. I hope we get visitors :)

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  2. I feel the same way as you. When I first moved abroad, it seemed like every person I talked to said "oh I can't wait to come visit! I'll definitely be there!" Right now I'm just pushing people extra hard because of how well the dollar is doing…visiting is much easier now than before!

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    1. Now is a great time to come. I'm lucky too, because Lithuania is one of the cheapest places in Europe to visit (minus the expensive flight to Europe). Hopefully they will come!

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  3. I hear you! When we lived in fashionable Copenhagen we had no end of visitors, and had to turn people down from time to time. Now we are in Bavaria people don't want to know unless it's Oktoberfest Season or Christmas Market season! :D

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    1. Copenhagen - I can so understand why people would want to visit you there! It is such a wonderful city! I've never been to Germany, but from all of the photos I see Bavaria is top on my list - either in the summer or the winter! At least you have the Oktoberfest and Christmas Market for visitors to get excited about :)

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  4. I'm so sorry that you feel this way...believe me if I could afford to come to see you there I would! and I also understood completely when you were unable to come home at Christmas time. Unfortunately, now that I have the freedom of time I don't have the financial freedom. That is why it was so nice to see you in Rome and take advantage of the opportunity that we were lucky enough to have. Coming in May was what we were originally planning, however, since circumstances have changed...then coming in August would have been impossible. So proud of the person that you have become and I wish that I could win the lottery!.

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    1. Hopefully you will be able to visit in the late summer/early fall. This is something that you should probably think of the dates for sooner rather than later, since hosting both you and J's parents at the same time might be complicated/overwhelming.

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  5. My parents have been living abroad since 2004, and in that period, they have had two of my aunts come together on a trip to visit them for less than two weeks. That's all in the way of family visitors (I, and my brother and sister who are out of the house return to stay with my parents occasionally, but I don't consider us 'visitors' in the place we call home!). Most of our relatives don't have the health or inclination to undertake the trip around the globe, and I can understand that, as I detest the plane flight from the USA to Asia and try not to do it often. I can definitely understand the feeling of wanting to proudly show off your new home, I would really enjoy it too! Now that my husband and I plan on living in Asia for the foreseeable future, we wonder if any of his family will want to visit us someday. I think his younger brother is strongly inclined to, but we'll see what happens in the future.

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    1. It is great that your parents have you and your siblings come to visit at least! I guess I count my going back to my hometown to see my parents as a visit, but perhaps my definition of home is a bit wobbly. I also am not a fan of really long flights (or the ridiculous expense!) but even so, having a visitor even once would be nice.

      Oh - you are moving to Asia! I wish I could be living in Asia! I do hope you get some visitors, especially if your brother-in-law is interested!

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